Homeowners Associations Forget
that People Knew How to Enjoy their Lives Before "Rules" Came
Along
Within the past few days, a resident as worked tirelessly with a number of others to bring residents of Sun City Anthem
together, not in a political manner, but is a social setting to allow people to
be themselves, enjoying themselves...in the way they want to enjoy
themselves....
...by starting
a new social club whose mission statement...before it
went before a "committee"
was....
And then...the RULES and COMMITTEES stepped in !
Dan Roberts, publisher of
The Vegas Voice, added a comment on the Anthem Today
forum that, when combined with the efforts of various residents to start a new
social club, were met with objection after
objection.
And both have been met with what I will refer to as
CHILDISH behavior on the part of those who frankly,
HAVEN'T A CLUE as to what is, and what is not, a GOOD TIME...in the minds of a
lot of people.
...yet...wish to "legislate"
how that is to be defined by those whose lives have been structured and
controlled every step of the way by others who, in the opinion of fun-loving and
easy going people, are as BORING and CONTROLLING as
them.
"Why don't you do this ?"
"Why can't you do that?"
"They do that, so you can't do
this"
This is what you have to go through
TO HAVE FUN ????
Why do you often disagree with others who set community
policy ?
We get those types of questions all the
time.
So...I thought I would address those questions
once and for all.
First and foremost, we somehow got to this point in our
lives because we MUST HAVE DONE SOMETHING RIGHT --- we are INDIVIDUALS defined by our successful careers, where
friendships were defined by a handshake or by associating with those who had
similar interests...
...we met our friends by saying
"hello" and being neighborly toward others,
and have cultivated those relationships because WE LIKED
PEOPLE...
...not by a "club" who had a defined set of rules, whose actions over
time in many cases, have evolved into creating some form of social circle that
does little other than BACK BITE one another time after
time.
We "did our own thing"...and made a flock of friends in the
process---real friends, those who can be counted on under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, and
who are always there for you in an hour of
need.
We watch their homes and pick up their mail for them when
they are out of town; we try to help them when something breaks; we get them to
the airport when they don't have a ride; and often call them to join us for a
casual meal or ice cold beer.
...and to others who define
"fun" differently than we
do, we merely say...
"Fine, no problem, we won't tell you
how to lead your life, just allow us to live ours the way we choose to...as long
as it doesn't violate any legal and moral
boundary."
We don't have to be told where we want to eat, or where we
should go for entertainment.
We pay for this place just like all the
rest of you do, and we just want to use
it...like the rest of the "clubs" do....FREE of CHARGE...because IT'S OURS TOO
!
And RIDICULOUS as this might
sound...
...to do that...we have to start a CLUB
!!!!
Other than the "game" that has to be played in order to use
OUR OWN PROPERTY, we couldn't care less about the
word "club".
We've never needed one to have
FUN...
...yet there is a certain element, normally associated with
"social outcasts" who have been unable to mingle with "normal" people in their
lives....
...some distorted psychological belief that it is now
"their turn" to make up for their being alienated by "normal"
people...
...and that "their code" is the "only code",..to live
by.
Want an example ?
Go to some committee or board meetings and view most of the
audience.
Gaze at the audience and look
carefully. Most are the same ones over and over
again, about 35-40 of them, who define a
"good time" as going to a meeting
on a bright sunshiny day...
...watching others making up "rules" for
others...
...others who JUST WANT TO play cards, shoot pool, play mah
jongg, enjoy tennis or bocce, take a swim, go to the fitness areas, casinos,
afternoon shows, the Strip....whatever !
And to those individuals....good for you. Different
strokes for different folks !
If that's what you enjoy, enjoy it...and if you really crave making "rules" as a form of "entertainment", why don't you start your own
club?
I'm sure you'll find at least 35 of you with similar
interests that can congregate at a social
function to make "rules", talk about "rules", and even complain about those who don't follow "rules"....
..perhaps even calling yourselves, the "I need rules to have fun Club".
..perhaps even calling yourselves, the "I need rules to have fun Club".
But...GIVE THE REST OF US A
BREAK....and...GIVE IT A REST ALREADY
!
Let people have FUN the way
they choose to do so, and look for reasons to ALLOW THEM TO
HAVE THAT FUN, not reasons to outlaw it.
Treat them like FELLOW OWNERS,
not your humble servants.
So...try our rules....
...you might actually be able to have more fun !
Dick Arendt
...you might actually be able to have more fun !
Dick Arendt
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